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Mind Muscle & Movement Podcast

Good Morning!  We are nearing the end of September, Halloween is right around the corner and Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming right behind!  Whew – this has been a fast yet amazing year!

A first for me this year was talking with Lindsey Heiserman on her podcast Mind Muscle and Movement!  Wow – She is one amazing lady! She made me feel confident and comfortable talking about my health journey (and we all know that’s not an easy task).  Thank you Lindsey!

I want to share this podcast with you so you can listen and verify for yourself how great she is!  This is only one of her many podcasts! She has wonderful messages and interviews to share!  I encourage you to listen!

Take it away Lindsey….

“This week on the Mind Muscle and Movement Podcast we start our women’s health series and I talk to Lori Paul. She shares her incredible (and outrageous health story) but also gives us her 3 Tips to Build Confidence When Dealing With Transitional Changes.

You’ll want to check it out. Head on over to the blog to read more and LISTEN”

http://www.lindseyheiserman.com/interviewwithloripaul/

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Radiating

Its August already …where has summer gone…it feels like it just started!

Its been over a week since I’ve been home from Tulum Mexico and amazingly, I have had more people tell me I am radiating, that I light up a room when I walk in and the happiness is just bursting out of my pores!  I cannot begin to tell you how transformational and healing the retreat was! It was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had and can honestly say I feel like a new person!  We slept in huts with no a/c, we ate vegetarian meals for the week, and engaged in daily yoga and meditation.  We did a labyrinth, a tezmecal, and a gratitude circle (all Mayan rituals) along with many personal deep dives into worth, truth and letting go. One of the most wonderful things was I had very limited connectivity so was able to almost completely unplug for 6 days.  (I would HIGHLY recommend unplugging for any length of time…it is life changing!)

I spent 6 days with 6 incredible women!  They inspired me.  They made me feel safe. They gave me the courage to be vulnerable! (Trust me – that is not something I’m comfortable being…ever!)  The energy, the love and the unconditional support I received during this retreat along with the exceptional experiences of Tulum were truly transformational.  I learned with 100% certainty that I can survive anything life presents to me.  I know after enduring extremely physically challenging circumstances, I can be uncomfortable, I can have limited resources, yet I can survive,I am strong and I can make it through to the other side. And oh my goodness….the other side is EXCEPTIONAL!  

Wishing you radiance, happiness and disconnection throughout the rest of your summer!

Grateful Heart (and funeral info)

THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart to everyone for extending your prayers, kindness, love and support!  Every single phone call, email, text message, flowers, cards, notes, food, hugs and spiritual healing has truly held me together this week despite how broken I feel.

Please continue to share stories of my father as love and laughter is really the best medicine.  My heart is so very grateful and my family is very blessed to have such an amazing surrounding of friends and family to embrace us in this time of sorrow.  I wish I could hug every single one of you so you could feel how much gratitude is in my heart.

Please note the services for my father, Tommy Faaborg, will be held Saturday, June 17, 2017 at 11:00am at Danebod Lutheran Church in Tyler, MN.  There will be an hour prior to the service for friends and family to gather as well as a light luncheon following the service.

Please continue to hold us in your prayers as we prepare to say our final goodbyes and as we celebrate the wonderful life of my father!

A Good Fight

It’s with a tremendously sad heart that I share my father passed away Saturday evening. For anyone who has followed my blog this past year, it’s been a roller coaster ride as my father was put into hospice a year ago on May 27, 2016 with stage 5 kidney failure.  He improved only to have a heart attack in June. We all thought we were going to lose him then, but again, he pulled through!  Now exactly one year later on May 27, 2017, we said goodbye.

We shared many stories over the last few days and the common theme was how stubborn of a man he was but also that he was absolutely the kindest and most tender hearted man most people knew! He, without a doubt, loved to farm, was a great friend and father, and would go out of his way for anyone! He taught me to be kind to others and generous with my time.

I am really, really sad today as I already miss my daily phone calls with him and the smile on his face and joy in his eyes when I went to visit him!  I’ll miss his words of encouragement and his I love you’s.  I am very grateful that he always put up a good fight (as I said before, he was stubborn) and I will forever cherish the extra year we were blessed with to build upon our special bond!

Dad…you will forever be in my heart!  I know you are my guardian angel now and I know you likely have already found a tractor and a farm! Now go farm!

I Love you Dad!

Frustrated!

Mother’s Day weekend!!  My tradition is to plant flowers on Mother’s day weekend. Honestly, I transport flowers from one pot to another, but I still consider that planting (insert winky face).  I just planted my flowers and even if you don’t plant flowers, I want to wish all the moms a happy, fun filled day spent doing something YOU love whether or not it includes children, family or friends.  Do something that feeds your SOUL!

So, today I’m frustrated.  Not because its Friday (of course not!) or because I still need to get a card for my mother for Mother’s Day, but because I’ve been doing the Whole30 diet with a couple of friends and I’m ticked off with my body’s reaction.  First, I cannot eat eggs, beans, sweet potatoes or nuts which are staples in the diet!  But second, my severe case of SIBO and leaky gut takes these foods and many other foods off the list! Ugh!  Finally, the ultimate bummer is how my body is responding!

Three weeks in, I’m feeling more energized and sleeping better; however, I’ve noticed over the last three days, my clothes have gotten tighter (Yes, I said tighter not looser), my stomach has become bloated and my mood shifted from happy to irritated.  What is going on? Isn’t eating cleaner supposed to bring fitter, leaner, healthier results?  And to top it off, I ate turkey and squash for lunch and my stomach reacted with major bloating!  WTH!  My body isn’t cooperating and I’m ticked!  UGH!! Double UGH UGH!!  

Yes, I’m frustrated!  I also realize I cannot heal my stomach overnight. I cannot wave a magic wand and make SIBO, Leaky Gut or Lyme’s disappear overnight.  BUT, I can be grateful for where I am today.  Somedays it takes a little (or BIG) push to get there, but we all can get there!  So, even with being frustrated (greatly frustrated), I’m grateful I can afford to eat healthy foods.  I’m grateful for my doctor who has turned this frustrating adventure into a livable journey. I’m grateful for my friends, who talked me off the ledge this morning when I was having a pity party!  I’m grateful for my daughters who motivate me to push ahead with my head high despite the setbacks!  I’m grateful for the people who will read this, who may also be struggling, and see the glimmer of sunlight for them too!  

Yes, life is frustrating, but keep going!  I’m proof you can see the rainbow after the storm!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Spring Cleaning

Spring has sprung here in Minnesota.  Nearly 70 degrees on Monday and low-to-mid 60s the rest of the week!  I suppose we could get one last blast of snow in April, but I’m staying positive and thinking flowers instead!

When I think of spring, my first thought is spring cleaning…Ugh!  Some people love to clean closets and wash screen and windows, but to others that may seem time consuming and like a really big hassle.  Yep, that’s me!  Honestly, I sometimes tend to find other things to do like go for a walk, watch a movie or read a book instead.  However, what I do remember is the feeling when the spring cleaning is done!  It feels amazing, freeing and joyful!  

With the end result in mind (I want to be joyful, free and feel amazing), this year I decided to focus on spring cleaning my SELF instead of spring cleaning my HOUSE.  Everyone has something they have been wishing or hoping they would/could/should do or stop doing.  It could be shopping for a new car or discontinuing an automatic monthly shipment of _______ (fill in the blank).  What comes to mind for you?  

Mine was to get back into a healthy routine!  Anyone who knows me well knows I tend to be healthy (i.e. eat healthy, exercise regularly, go to bed early), but the past several months have brought a lot of extra activities like networking, weekly lunches and dinner meetings, happy hours and sometimes even lazy mornings!  Needless to say, I haven’t been exercising regularly, I haven’t been eating healthy and I haven’t been getting to bed early either.  When living with a chronic illness, it most definitely takes a toll on my mind and my body!  Soooooo, its time to SPRING CLEAN. There’s no time like the present, so why not start a new hobby, break a bad habit or build a new healthy routine?  I’m starting today!  How about you? How will you spring clean?

 

Limitations or Lessons

Happy New Year – it’s been a while since I decided to show up here but I’m back, like it or not!   I love the idea of starting new in 2017 yet I wanted to remind everyone that every day is a new day to start fresh – who needs an entire year to go by to make a fresh start? Not me!

As I reflect on 2016 and greatly anticipate an amazing 2017, I wanted to reflect on some things I’ve learned while living with Lyme’s disease. It is a completely different beast than I ever would have imagined.   Living with Lyme’s has the fun of working with food restrictions and food allergies, numerous bouts of various medications, many physical limitations, along with mental and emotional challenges.

There are so many limitations Lyme’s can put on one person every day. However, are they really limitations or are they lessons? I’d like to think they are lessons. What I’ve learned living with Lyme’s is that it’s ok to slow down. It’s ok to enjoy the quiet moments of life. It’s ok to shut your eyes for 5 minutes and breathe in the fresh (cold) air while the sun warms your face. Its ok to snuggle on the couch with a loved one and just savor the moment of closeness. It’s ok to be late for a meeting sometimes. It’s ok to eat ice cream for breakfast and pancakes for dinner. It’s ok to skip hockey or basketball practice to head to Starbucks instead. It’s ok to sit in your car when you get home so you can finish belting out your favorite song. (Just did that myself yesterday). It’s ok!  I now know don’t have to win the race every day and some days I don’t even participate. And that’s ok. Why? Because limitations or not, I can wake up (God willing) and start fresh tomorrow.

Just Decide

How many times do you ponder what to do? You take hours, days, sometimes weeks to decide what to do.  Whether it be about what to wear in the morning, what route to take to work, what to make for dinner or big ticket items like what career to pursue, what doctor to see, what trip to take, what to do to be healthier, to lose weight, to eat better.  We all have decisions to make every day! And yes, decisions can be scary and they can be exhilarating all at the same time.

It’s not enjoyable to be stuck. It’s not fun to worry about what you should do or what you should not do. I recently spoke with someone who is dealing with Lyme’s.  He is sick, he’s tired, he’s tried several different options and now he’s immovable. He cannot decide which path to take.  Both paths have advantages and disadvantages. Both paths have scary options and desired options. Both paths have unknown results and consequences.  He cannot take both paths, so I said pick one, any one, just pick!  He cannot gain any ground by sitting and thinking about it.  Yes, it may not be the right decision, but it’s a decision. You can always make a new decision. It could also be the best decision, it’s still a decision.  It’s a step forward; it’s putting everything into motion, its moving ahead….its getting unstuck!

Once you decide, you will feel like you’ve already won!  You are more than half way there by just deciding!  Deciding is the first step in learning, in knowing, in finding the desired outcome.  You have 100% control.   I encourage you to look at your pending decisions, look at your options, review all possible scenarios, but whatever you do, just decide!

What did you decide to do today?

Lori

Laughter

On my way into work this morning, I was listening to Joel Osteen on XM radio. He was speaking today on the benefits of laughter.  For those who know me…..I love to laugh! I love to laugh with friends, with coworkers, with family, really with anyone.  I love the “catch your breath” moment when I can’t stop laughing or when the tears are streaming down my face from laughing so hard. Everyone loves to laugh, right? I bet you can remember a time when you had a really good belly laugh!

The message today reminded me of when the girls and I were driving down to visit my father (I’ll give an update on him shortly) one day earlier this summer. On our drive, we played a game where we think of things we are hoping to see like llamas, a pink water tower or maybe a tractor driving alongside the road and if one of the things we listed is found, then the person scores points.  After accumulating a certain number of points, the person gets a prize. Most of the time, the girls get something from DQ and I get the girls agreeing to vacuum the house for a week. Win/win, right?  Well, this was the first time we were playing this game and I said brown cows thinking brown cows were not as common as black cows. To my disbelief, within 2 minutes we drove by a farm with at least 100 brown cows in the pasture.  Are you serious?  OMG!  I couldn’t believe it!  Who would have thought?

We broke out in hysterical laughter. I almost had to stop the car because we were laughing so hard.  It was awesome!  I think we smiled the entire way to Tyler and back after such a great, catch your breath, tears streaming laugh!  I share this story because I learned several things that day.  I learned “brown” cows are not rare, I learned a good laugh can make your day, your week or even your month more delightful and I learned the memory of that moment will bring so many more laughs for years to come!  Yes…we still laugh every time we drive by!

It’s these moments that make me cherish my life and make me so grateful for my girls, the laughter they give me and just the precious gift of laughter! I encourage you to laugh today.  A small, medium or big laugh will make your day and maybe even your week so much more joyful and happy! And I believe everyone can use a little happiness and joy in their lives!

As promised, my father is stable at this time.  His kidneys are functioning around 11% and his heart is working fiercely to keep up!  With 24×7 care and three solid meals a day, I think he is doing quite well! Thank you for you continued prayers and kind thoughts!

P.S. Don’t forget to laugh today! 🙂

Second Chance

Summer brings many storms, but there is something about watching the lightning spread across the night sky that makes me appreciate how powerful Mother Nature can be. I also appreciate how powerful prayers can be along with second chances. What started out as an ordinary weekend with a trip to Tyler to visit my father turned into a weekend of many prayers, tears and a second chance.

My daughters and I went down Friday afternoon to visit with my dad who was feeling pretty good after experiencing a couple of weeks of complications – from showing signs of a stroke to excessive water retention due to his failing kidneys. He was in great spirits when we left! However, when we returned Saturday morning, things had changed. He was experiencing chest pains, shortness of breath and nausea.  They moved him to the hospital for monitoring and testing. After a few tests they determined he had a mild heart attack sometime Friday evening and was continuing to aFib (irregular, rapid heart rate). By noon, the doctor came in and told my dad that he will likely go into cardiac arrest sometime within 5 to 48 hours. My dad has a ‘do not resuscitate’ order so if/when that happens the hospital will not do anything to stop it. The doctor did not believe my dad would survive much longer, yet the hospital would continue to give him medicine to slow his heart rate (140 bpm) and lower his blood pressure (170/140) to give him comfort along with morphine to ease his pain.

I made several phone calls to our family. At 4pm, the pastor from his church came to pray and give him his final communion, and talks of funeral arrangements were underway. I sat with my dad that afternoon saying my goodbyes.  I told him I did not want him to suffer, but I needed him here. I did not want to lose my biggest supporter, I did not want our daily check-ins to end, and I did not want to lose my dad. He told me to continue to fight for my health, to do what I can to be and feel healthy but he felt this was the end and told me to live a happy and good life but he needed to go now.

Then at 8pm something, I cannot explain, happened. A switch was flipped. My prayers were answered. A miracle occurred. My dad had been stabilized and the doctor believed he would pull through. By 9pm, my dad was sitting up, talking and eating. By Sunday morning, he was a different person. He said he hasn’t felt this good in months. I watched in disbelief. I sat there in shock at the sudden change of events. It really was like someone flipped a switch and he was fine.

I have not cried as hard as I did this weekend. I have not felt such heart ache as I did seeing my dad so close to death. And I have never witnessed a miracle as I did Saturday night. My dad was given a second chance. The doctor came into his room Sunday morning and said “Tom, it obviously wasn’t your time to go! I didn’t think you would survive beyond 7pm last night.” My mom also told my dad that God gave him a second chance; that his work wasn’t done here. She asked my dad if he knew why. He looked at me and said…. “she’s sitting right across from me!”

I cannot express the emotions I experienced this weekend. Such sadness and heart ache to shock, joy and gratitude for more time with my dad. I thank God for answering my prayers and for giving my dad the gift of more time…for giving him a second chance. I am also so grateful for my mom for coming at a moment’s notice, to Michelle for coming down to help with the girls, to Katie for making a trip down to bring me things from my house, to Diane for opening up your home to my mother and I and finally to all the family and friends who visited, sent messages, called or just said prayers for my dad. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

As I sit here this morning, I am filled with such great emotions and still remain in awe at the miracle I witnessed this weekend and am so very grateful and humbled at my dad’s second chance!  When I called him this morning the first thing he said was “It’s so great to hear your voice.”  I could not agree more, Dad!